For a stable marriage relationship

There is no such thing as a marriage without arguments or differences, that is something of a fairy tale. In real life, marriages have their ups and downs. While it is not nice to fight with your partner, the differences do not indicate the end of your relationship. The relationship expert Lori Bizzoco see these discussions as an opportunity to identify constructive ways to solve problems, overcome obstacles and establish a stronger bond. All relationships can improve and it's always good to work for this purpose.

Here are some tips that marital relations experts offer: 

Fight. It sounds contradictory, but discussions between partners can be a sign that the relationship still has a great foundation. Indifference may be a red flag that the relationship is in trouble. "Couples who fight indicate that still care about each other," says Susan Fletcher, a psychologist at Dallas. The next time you look in a war of words with your partner, do not run from the fight, use the dispute to seek a resolution and then enjoy the reconciliation!

If you love it, let it grow. Many people change and develop as earning years - but according to Bizzoco, this sometimes comes as a surprise to the couple. "Many times we think we know so well to a person not allow them the freedom to be anything other than the person we met." But to accept these changes can be very beneficial for the relationship. So if your husband wants to take golf, you want to go back to school, be encouraged one another to pursue these interests.

Be a team. "consult, discuss and make decisions as a couple and not precede others, children or extended family first, "says Karol Ward, a psychotherapist in New York. If you put your partner first, he will feel loved and valued - a very important emotion for a marriage.

Greet with encouragement. When you've been separated from your partner - even for the working day - welcome him with enthusiasm, rather than just looking up with a 'hey' listless. That is a simple way to show you care. "It sounds silly, but consider what you feel when you give them attention," says Bizzoco. Your special greeting can be anything from a hug, sexy dance one step.

Do not forget your manners, thanks. "It's so easy to focus on what your partner is bad that we do not usually look at what they do well. Create the habit of writing every night three good things about your partner - a good thing he did, a memory of him or one of its many qualities. "This helps keep you positive about it, which will benefit your relationship," states Elizabeth Lombardo, a psychologist in Pennsylvania.

Looking for your opinion. Although your relationship consists of many years, ask your partner something very simple: "How do you know I love you?". Listen carefully to his answer, says Ward, you might discover which of your actions are the most popular and attitudes to continue to grow in your relationship.