To help divorced people find a new life partner , Lee Block , an expert on relationships and divorce, created the website quotes, Post-Divorce Dating Club , a place especially designed to meet friends who are in the same situation. The site not only offers Internet services, but also offers advice on life after divorce, to return to dating and events to meet new people.
A part of this useful tool, Block offers some steps for people who recently divorced or are gone through this process, but looking back to love and be loved:
Step 1: Admit that you've hit rock bottom You've tried everything that was in your power to make your marriage work but can not do anything else . You have to admit that you've hit bottom and are ready to overcome it and get out of that situation. In addition, you must understand that this decision will affect both you and your partner and your children, if you have. "Those making the decision to start completely fresh and from scratch which can cause fear and need more courage than you had thought possibly." Block says.
Step 2: Take responsibility for your part about ending the marriage takes two people to work or break a relationship. Taking responsibility for growth and power supplies, and more importantly, forgiveness and healing. Block shares, "I know some people have been unfaithful or have abused their partners, and of course, these cases do not fall into this category, but usually, when love dies, the two are guilty of it."
Step 3: Be prepared to be single or being a single parent "If you're not prepared for the reality of being single or being a single parent, then you're probably not ready for divorce." says Block. You will have to be present 24 / 7, whether for your children or yourself. It's a good idea to make a schedule and a budget to keep everything in order. Take time to relax and take a moment to yourself every day to help you stay sane and stay in your center.
Step 4: Count your blessings Divorce can make you lose track of what is really important so remember to be thankful so that you have including your children, family, friends, home, food, health and even your pet, if you have one. Count your blessings every day and you'll be much better. "Be thankful that even though your life is not perfect after the divorce, it is probably better than it was when you were married," says Block.
Step 5: Set goals and dreams for the future you married before you had your own goals but then they changed when you said, "I do", and naturally adopted the wishes and needs of your partner putting aside your own. Now that you're single again, make a list and a promise to yourself that you will reach those things you dreamed of one day. "Write your goals for your future in six months, one year, five years and ten years. Visualize be when your children grow. Read what you wrote constantly to monitor the progress of what you set out."
